Wow, a huge thank you to Jim and Andrew for making the contest possible. And Shawn...uh.... huge wow, what a donation to the guys forward. I'm back for now (have a few months before round 4 kicks off) but I know how much this will mean to the gyus and gals that benefit from your generosity.
That said, I have two short things to share with the peanut gallery:
1... this harkens back to when my life was measured in months not years, and as such is not a memory for me so much as a story that, learning later in life, warmed and saddened me equally.
Back during Christmas of 75, when I was only 6 months old, the family went to spend christmas eve with some of my father's kin (a rare thing since no three people of that group can get along for 10 minutes straight, resulting in us always spending the holidays with my mother's family on Thanksgiving and christmas day, but I digress). I hear is was a nice, if short visit with me raising hell, buncing on grandpa's knee and doing that infant/toddler thing. At the end of the night, my grandfather, who had cancer and emphazyma, told my father that "I can be in peace, i met my grandson who will carry my name" (my father had earlier kids, all of whom went with the mother and didn't stay Goff's). My father, slightly shaken, nodded thoughtfully knowing his dad's prognosis wasn't to see another Christmas. We went home and the moment ended. The next day, halfway through Christmas dinner at my grandmother's house we get the call that Grandpa Harrold died. According to my Aunt, after the fact, he showed up to Christmas dinner, told her "To Hell with my diet, it's my last Christmas" gorged himself as best he could on a chemo-shrunken stomach. Then he enjoyed a 3 block walk home in still, snowy night and had a nap in his favorite recliner when he got there. He never woke up.
Heart attack, in his sleep. That the way to go.
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2... This story is a memory of mine and is more uplifting, if long.
Flash forward to 1991...May to be exact. At 8:53 am on a Sat morning I'm relaxing in my skivvies with my shattered ankle in a cast up on the arm of the couch. My mother gets a call from my dad, the car's broken down and can she come get him? OK. So she asks me to go get her one of my bandanas for her hair and as I reach my room I hear a huge crash! I come hobbling out as quick as possible and my mother says "I think there's been a head on collision, you check the front and I'll check the side and we'll se if anyone needs help." So I hobble again to the front door, jerking my head back and forth like a frightened chihuahua on espresso, nothing! As I limp back to the back room, my mother enters through the side door and we both stop cold, 5 separate fires all over the laundry room where she had just separated the laundry. SO she grabs the first thing she can to try and smother it.... acrylic blanket, wrong move. The fire shoots from 2 foot to 8 foot in a second. I call the fire dept (which, mercifully is 1 mile from our house). Stupidy, we grab the birdcage ( a 6-ft aviary, really) and I get one of my 2 dogs out of the house (the other is in the back yard - we'll get to him in a second). Then I grab a pair of slacks on my way out the door, trying and failing to pull it up over my fiberglass cast, until a neighbor brought scissors and sliced it open from knee to foot so I could wear something other than my underwear. It was just over 5 minutes from call to arrival of the firemen, and despite the activity of moving pets and getting out, still seemed like forever to wait. The heros arrive and try to get around the side and back of the house (which at this point has flames shooting from the roof of the southeast corner) when I remember Bear, my wolf/german shepard hybrid throwback in the back yard that will not recognize the need to allow the firemen entry to his territory. I go hobble-sprinting across the street, stop the fireman with his hand on the gate latch (privacy fence, and Bear han't caught on yet) some how got him to delay 1 minute as I went to the back chainlink, vaulted one-handed (breaking the cast open on landing) and somehow got Bear out the opposite gate and into my mother's car. The fire was out at 0905, I believe, maybe 0915. I wasn't there, they took me to the hospital to see to my ankle and get me a new cast. When we I came back, 40% of the house burned to the frame (roof and all), 30% was burned and the remainder, which the fire hadn't gotten to yet, was thoroughly water and smoke damaged.
First the insurance tried to call it arson so they woouldn't have to pay. Then they refused to accept the cost of leveling it and rebuilding. Finally they gave us a paltry 40k to hire contractors to rebuild it ourselves (not including hotel cost and refurbishment for damaged items that could be saved). We could not afford to rebuild with that, so my father essentially rebuild the house himself, working hours after work every day for 5 months and we still had to drain all our savings to finish.
By now your asking, what's Christmas got to do with it... come 1 Nov when we finally move back into the house, no money left and very few pssessiosn saved, father annouces Chistmas is cancelled. We'll celebrate and go to my grandmother's for the normal christmas dinner, but we just can't afford Christmas. My mother had it the roughest, losing all of her family heritage items that were in the attic, so my brother and I go to my father and ask him to help us get some work so we can do something for her. He arranges some small jobs as barter to local business, harware store, landscaping place, etc. A family friend bought us a small tree and I made some signs in exchange for new decorations. We had a small chrismas inside and everyone turned early, then the three of us stole rom the house to play Santa for my mother. The rest of what little we earned in 6 weeks along with some bartered goods allowed us to set it all up. When morning came my mother awoke to find a few gifts for here, mst of them some more pictures adn stuff we got from family to replace what she lost, and the finale. Out the from window on the still scortch-marker eather we planted two small spruce and decoreted the for christmas too, and landscaped a small garden area over what was black and dead. Between the heirlooms and the scene outside she cried for almost an hour. Somehow father had managed a present for each of us, and though it was a small Christmas it is still the most potent in my memory for the feeling of hope and renewal it provided. It was turning point for the whol family after losing almost everything and spending the better part of the year "fighting the man."
Since then, my father has passed, my mother, who is disabled, lives with me in NC and my brother now ownes and lives in the house. But the Spruce still stand, somehere at the 25ft mark now!
-K-