My wife and i still have a few issues to work through, and with 3 kids, divorce isn't an option, so we're going back to a counselor that really helped us 2 years ago. Well, my wife and i both stopped alcohol consumption, of which the counselor agreed with wholeheartedly, and i have no issues with that, i have trouble with moderation of alcohol, so why fight it anymore, too much to risk.
She then proceeds to tell me i need to give up cigars. I flat out said no. Going out on the deck every night for an hour or so when i could be involved with the family is one thing, but smoking one or two a week to unwind and relax is something i don't see a problem with, and will continue to do so, if i can keep it at one or two a week.
I really respect the Counselor, alot, and i have no issues with working to improve the issues i have that affects our marriage, but giving up cigars is one non-negotiable item that they will both have to get over. Now, if i can keep it in moderation, then i will continue, but if i head to the deck most every night instead of spending time with the family, then it may be time to throw all my Opus and other HTF Fuente products away :laugh:
Ever had this situation?
This seems darn close to an ultimatum. Reading comprehension isn't the issue here, it's your writing style and mis-use of pronouns. In your second paragraph, you should have said "The counselor", not "She" tells you to give up cigars.
So if your wife can't get over you enjoying a cigar or two each week then what's the other option?
And if you scroll through the thread I think you'll find a couple instances where I was quoted in saying that the issue isn't about cigars, and folks agreed with me.