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Thanks for the good wishes and prayers!

Hang in there. My prayers go out to you and your family.
 
My prayers and thoughts are with him and his family. Hang in there.
 
Thanks guys, its this waiting around feeling helpless that is killing me inside.

I'll let you know more when I find out.

Shawn
 
Wurm said:
Thanks guys, its this waiting around feeling helpless that is killing me inside.

I'll let you know more when I find out.

Shawn
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Prayer sent for a speedy and full recovery Shawn. I'd love to hear some of the stories he must have.
 
Here is all the information I've been able to put together these last few days, its been really hectic around here as you can imagine.

He went in by ambulance last week because he was having Arrhythmias. So they pumped him up with blood thinner and used a defib to shock his heart using electrical cardioversion to get it to beat right.

He was looking forward to coming home on Friday, and spoke with my wife and littlest daughter on the phone. Diane was really happy that she was going to pick up "Opa" with her mom.

Fred went to sleep on Thursday and at 2am the nurse making her rounds noticed that he had had a massive stroke.

But there wasn't anything they could do, since he still had the blood thinner in him from the electrical cardioversion.

So the critical stroke care window was missed. My Mother in Law and my Brother in Law spent the night with him, only letting us know when they left Friday morning after a night of no sleep.

The doctors transferred him from the local hospital to the main city hospital and the doctors said he might have a day or two but not to get our hopes up. Today Elke (my wife) took Jenny (my oldest) with her to see Fred with her two brothers while leaving Diane home with me to keep my Mother in Law company.

He was asleep when they arrived. According to the scan the entire one half of the brain is gone. He is completely paralyzed on the right side. The doctor made her rounds and as part of the therapy they always talk to the patients and try to get them to respond. When the family was allowed back in, Fred was awake and was able to respond to them. Elke said it took him a while to realize where he was and what had happened. And now his worst nightmares may have come true. I've spoken more than once with my Father in Law about death and disability and he has told me that he never wanted to be a bed ridden care patient. He told me he'd rather die suddenly and have it over.

The next few day are critical, but the whole situation just sucks. I'm happy my Wife got a chance to talk to and kiss her dad again, but I am honestly hoping he does pass in the next couple days so he doesn't have to live the nightmare he was always afraid of and it makes me feel guilty as hell for feeling that way.

Torn in Germany,

Shawn
 
My father is 82 and recently went through a major spinal surgery. I can tell you one thing, men from those times are tough as nails. They don't make them like that any more. Back then they did what ever the job took never complained about it and always asked what's next. God bless him and your family. There isn't many men like that left these days so we all need to be thankful for the time we have with them. My prayers are with him and your family.
 
Shawn, I have responded to countless calls where people are on their deathbed. I have talked to the family members that aren't ready to let them go mentally. They have the hardest time.

Be the rock for your family to lean on and try not to allow guilt to creep in and occupy too much of your time bro'. My father says the same thing about how he wants to go and wishing that for the person is in my opinion how we love and respect them as elders.
 
The family has decided (after talking to Fred) to place him in a hospice to pass into the great unknown.

Thanks for your prayers and warm thoughts.
 
Fred passed away a half an hour ago, I just got the call here at work. My family and I would like to thank all of you for your good thoughts and prayers, it was a big help back then and now.

*edit* Smoke one in his honor, I'm sure he'd get a kick out of it.

Shawn
 
My condolences to you and your family. My prayers are with you.

RIP Old Warrior. We are diminished.
 
May he rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
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