GOD HELP ME!

[IronBar]

I swear, I am getting SO sick and tired of hearing my four year old daughter whine and cry EVERY SINGLE DAY ABOUT SOMETHING! :angry2: :angry:

I know, I know. It could be worse. She could have autism or a dibilitating disease or lord knows what else. But I swaer sometimes I am at wits end hearing her piss and moan every day about something.

*Rant off*

 

[CvilleYoungGun]

Hmmm that doesn't have a lot to do with cigars so I will make a suggestion. Smoke a cigar and try to pick out all of the flavors. This will take your mind off of whatever is bothering you even if it is only for a short amount of time. If you get really upset smoke one of these

http://people.ambrosiasw.com/~andrew/bigasscigar/



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couldnt get the link to work :angry2:

 

[knightlaird]

Hi, IronBar! I am very sorry to learn that you are having problems. For some good information, please go to: http://parenting.ivillage.com At this site, enter the search term "whining". Yes, there is much information about pregnancy, etc. on the first page of this site. I suggest that you first read "6 Ways to Stop Whining". You can enter that in the search bar, or you can scroll down to locate and click on "6 Ways to Stop Whining" on this site. There is an abundance of information on this site about how to deal with whining and many other problems. I hope that this helps. Regards, knightlaird

 

[Wurm]

I swear, I am getting SO sick and tired of hearing my four year old daughter whine and cry EVERY SINGLE DAY ABOUT SOMETHING! :angry2: :angry:

I know, I know. It could be worse. She could have autism or a dibilitating disease or lord knows what else. But I swaer sometimes I am at wits end hearing her piss and moan every day about something.

*Rant off*

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I have a 4 year-old daughter myself, and while she doesn't whine and cry about everything, she does try her hardest to get on my wife and my nerves. How we handle it is this, we just plain out ignore her until she figures out she isn't going to get her way. And then she calms down and everything returns to normal.

Being 4 isnt easy you know, the kids at this age are finally able to express themselves in a almost adult manner and this normally leads to conflict with the parents.

So take a deep breath and walk away when she goes off on a tirade, once she figures out its no longer working she'll stop.

 

[sack]

I swear, I am getting SO sick and tired of hearing my four year old daughter whine and cry EVERY SINGLE DAY ABOUT SOMETHING! :angry2:  :angry:

I know, I know. It could be worse. She could have autism or a dibilitating disease or lord knows what else. But I swaer sometimes I am at wits end hearing her piss and moan every day about something.

*Rant off*

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I have a 4 year-old daughter myself, and while she doesn't whine and cry about everything, she does try her hardest to get on my wife and my nerves. How we handle it is this, we just plain out ignore her until she figures out she isn't going to get her way. And then she calms down and everything returns to normal.

Being 4 isnt easy you know, the kids at this age are finally able to express themselves in a almost adult manner and this normally leads to conflict with the parents.

So take a deep breath and walk away when she goes off on a tirade, once she figures out its no longer working she'll stop.

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what he said!

 

[jgohlke]

You guys are kiddin' right? What until she's 14! Man, you ain't seen nothing yet. That whining ain't going away and she's likely to add razor sharp sarcasm and mean streak so wide you'll swear she's been possessed. Then, you'll look back on these days and think "Remember when our daughter was a little angel?"

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Joe's advice on having kids:

Don't have girls.

 

[AVB]

That's why they make downstairs closets.

I swear, I am getting SO sick and tired of hearing my four year old daughter whine and cry EVERY SINGLE DAY ABOUT SOMETHING! :angry2: :angry:

*Rant off*

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[kevpriest]

That's why they make front porches and cigars!

 

[Gonz]

That's why they make birth control.


And why I'm lucky I have a boy!

 

[Cheeze]

That's why they make front porches and cigars!

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That's why they make birth control.


And why I'm lucky I have a boy!

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Amen!!!

:thumbs:

 

[KayakinBoy]

That's why they make birth control.


And why I'm lucky I have a boy!

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For the daughter? :0 :sign:

 

[emodx]

That's why they make birth control.


And why I'm lucky I have a boy!

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Ha! Fellas you guys are worse than hens!! I have a 9 year old ( lazarus) and a newly 5 year old ( trin

 

[celt]

posts like this always remind me that i need to make an appointment to get snipped.

note to self - call doctor!

 

[Cheekie]

That's why they make birth control.


And why I'm lucky I have a boy!

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Ha! Fellas you guys are worse than hens!! I have a 9 year old ( lazarus) and a newly 5 year old ( trin

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ok my bad didn't realize E was logged in.

Now on to my train of thought-

Lazarus, was way more difficult in behavior than my daughter is. He would ndo everything in hie power to annoy the hell out of people. Like take down a 30lb 25 year old mirror off the wall with his bare hands while on time out, set off the fire alarm at pre school 3 times because he liked watching the truck, and the all time fave is staring at you until you forget what you were pissed about. ( I would have a dry erase board on the fridge for this one once I realized what he was doin ) He would scream and rant and huff. But all in all that is what kids do.
Trinity is difficult but in a different way. when whining she will do he "UUUHH" sound but that is about it. She for some G forsaken reason rationalizes and seeks out the reason for the "NO".
I am blessed. I worked as a preschool teacher whil trin was still breastfeeding and I tell you everychild has moments of whining, crying, rants, and such But think of it this way.
You walk into your office in the am AND you can TELL the girl at the front desk is having a rough day, she is a total BEOTCH but there is nothing you can do to change her perspective. But you come home and realize samething holds tru to your 4 year old the only difference is that you can change her perspective.

Not listening/ lower your voice she will work harder to hear what you are saying

My best advice: Let your 'no' mean no and your 'yes' mean yes. Giving in to whining just makes it worse and sends the wrong message.

The I can't hear you or understand you works pretty damn good too. Trinity cought on to that one, she calls it the window. When her brother starts whining she says "laz window I can see you but I can't hear you" until he stops the whimpers hence the window effect.

Hopes this helps out a little.

kids you have to love them...

 

[DevilsMilk]

Got a five year old that does the same thing. Try beatings, or alcohol! No seriously I know its difficult but this stage in their life this is almost expected. Just take a step back and breath. Dont take your anger out on the kid by any means. Punishment is ok but thats it in a stable mindset. You and your wife need to take turns getting away from it. Dont give in by any means, giving in only resets the progress. Good luck we all know what your going through and if you need help by any means e-mail me. mrsanmrfox@earthlink.net.


Brad

 

[kiltedcraftsman]

I think this is great. This is the kind of support and discussion that makes me proud to be a part of this board, and group of BOTL's....

I have a 7(soon to be 8) year old daughter. She is the twinkle in my eye and I can't imagine my life without her. Her mother and I have been divorced since she was 6 mo's old and are just now starting to get along with regards to her upbringing. It's been a rough, long, costly battle-for all involved. I miss her terribly when she isn't with me...

This post reminds me of all the struggles my ex and I have with our daughter. The difference between 2 separate households is staggering, especially for a 7 year old little girl. For about the last 3 years she has been getting progressively more adept at playing both sides against the middle. While she seems to have missed the whining thing for now, she is VERY good at telling 2 versions of every story to fit the situation she is in. This is highly annoying and very difficult to deal with for a Dad that is wrapped around a certain someone's pinky finger.

Over the last several years I have often felt the frustration and have felt at some points like things would be just better if I gave up and just walked away. Then I realize what that would entail and move past it. It's at these times when I really do have to step back, and breathe. It really does help. I know that there will be worse things to come as she gets older, but I will just keep breathing and we will get through it . .

I realize I got a little off topic, but this just reminded to not take for granted the time we have with our kids. For some of us, its less than others, but no matter how much, it is too short . .

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[Wurm]

You guys are kiddin' right? What until she's 14! Man, you ain't seen nothing yet. That whining ain't going away and she's likely to add razor sharp sarcasm and mean streak so wide you'll swear she's been possessed. Then, you'll look back on these days and think "Remember when our daughter was a little angel?"

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Joe's advice on having kids:

Don't have girls.

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LOL

the little one is 4

the big one is 15 :0

So I have the best of both worlds :thumbs:

 

[cigarsarge]

Got a five year old that does the same thing. Try beatings, or alcohol! No seriously I know its difficult but this stage in their life this is almost expected. Just take a step back and breath. Dont take your anger out on the kid by any means. Punishment is ok but thats it in a stable mindset. You and your wife need to take turns getting away from it. Dont give in by any means, giving in only resets the progress. Good luck we all know what your going through and if you need help by any means e-mail me. mrsanmrfox@earthlink.net.


Brad

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DevilsMilk is corrct. I have raised two boys and am now raising a grand daughter so that makes me qualified to voice an opinion.

She is only four years old and does not understand how to get what she wants. Don't give in to whining..It only re-enforces bad behavior. Be firm and loving when using disipline. If you are in a position put her in a good day care. It teaches interaction between peers and adults. This also gives you a needed break.

Take time for you and your wife. My wife and I made the mistake of not taking time for each other during rasing of our boys. This caused added stress and made the family life harder.

You and your wife need to be on the same page in child rearing. This discourages your child from playing you against her and her against you. Been there...Done that...Not good.


Always keep you love for your family strong no matter what. Good luck...Just wait until she asks for the car keys. Talk about stress.

 

[SabresFan]

I swear, I am getting SO sick and tired of hearing my four year old daughter whine and cry EVERY SINGLE DAY ABOUT SOMETHING!

I know, I know. It could be worse. She could have autism or a dibilitating disease or lord knows what else. But I swaer sometimes I am at wits end hearing her piss and moan every day about something.

You are indeedly correct it could be worse, you could be me and have twin 4 year olds, boy and girl, as well as a 2 1/2 year old boy that is as stubborn as a mule to throw in the mix. I find the best thing to do when they are on my nerves is to as the old saying goes "if you can't beat em join em." and play a game with them or give them some kind of activity to work on. This keeps me sane and reminds me of how much they mean to me, not to mention it saves them from a beating.

 

[skrgrl74]

Wanna trade anyone???? I have a 5 1/2 year old son and I think after a day (or even a few hours) you'll be glad for the whining. And thank the lord for bedrooms, doors, and locks :}

Only kidding about the locks part. I just have a high, high, high energy son but I am sure everyone probably has one like him too....

All I can say as a mom is hang in there it gets better and stay strong.