I suppose it isn't too awful bad to ask. It is how you handle the answer that folks will gain some insight into your personality and willingness to
abide by rules, of any sort.
If you walk into my house, and I say, fine, come in, but no discussion about "whatever". If you ask for an explanation, to which, incidentally I don't owe an answer, I think negative, but maybe redeemable, curious, inexperienced, etc. If you continue to press, I think..."ok, this one is a problem. I'm never inviting him again".
If I say, let's not discuss it or even if I give you an answer, and you, who have not lived in my house, know its history, etc., decide to debate me, you would be asked to leave.
Having no insight into my decisions, and how I choose to protect my family, keep peace in my home, etc., your best option, if you want to remain welcome, is to follow the rules. Unless, of course, doing so would make you insanely twitchy. In that case, it might be best for you to avoid the situation.
