If you choose to go the route of a firearm, I would not recommend a shotgun. Shotguns are too cumbersome for a novice to use effectively as a self-defense weapon. The best firearm for home security is a lightweight handgun that is simple to use. I would recommend getting a Glock 9mm. These weapons are lightweight and simple to use. You don’t have to worry about manual safeties or any other external control that would slow you down in a high-stress self-defense engagement. Glocks are more expensive, but god forbidden you ever need it use, you will find the simplicity of operation more than makes up for the expense.
I heavily disagree...How is racking a shotgun aiming and shooting any more or less cumbersome than a pistol?
Handguns themselves can be cumbersome as well especially SAPs. The Glock itself not having a safety can be an issue in itself depending on which side of the fence you sit on. Yeah you can keep several magazines loaded but unless you're rehearsed with racking the slide, loading the magazine etc, ESPECIALLY under pressure, then you're going to have the same problems. If you're going to get a Glock 17 well, I hope she has big hands for it. A glock 19 might be a bit better for the comfortability factor on a female, though I'd worry about the stopping power of a 9mm round unless it's a lucky shot, emptying a mag or precisely aimed.
As I'd ALSO mentioned before, you have to think of what's past the target. Putting a round through the wall after a missed shot could yield in an unwarranted injury or death.
A shotgun, like ANY gun needs maintenance, and experience in use. Plus you have the added bonus of the scatter, should your lack of talent, pressure, nerves or anything prohibit you from taking a well aimed shot, ESPECIALLY when it's a life and death matter.
If you're worried about 19 rounds Vs the default 7 or so of the Remington 870...You can always opt for a magazine expansion on the remington. Same goes with Benellis and several other makes.
Home defense weapons are much like cigars. One mans favorite is another’s dog rocket. Many opinions have been expressed here. Each is valid for the person expressing it. It is their weapon of choice.
For someone with limited experience with firearms, a double action revolver is one of the best choices. They are available in many sizes, calibers, and price ranges. My suggestion would be something in .38/.357. High quality, reasonably prices revolvers are made by Ruger, Smith & Wesson, Taurus, and many others.
As has been suggested by others, go to a gun shop or range and handle as many different guns as you can. See which ones feel good in your hand and your wife’s hand. Narrow your choices down to a few that you like. Then go to a range and shoot each one. Then decide which you want to buy.
Once you do buy one, go to the range and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PARCTICE. Take a beginner instruction course. Become as familiar with the weapon as you can. Both you and your wife. Then you will have the knowledge and confidence to defend your home and family should you be put in that situation.
Just my 2 cents.
Well said. :thumbs: :thumbs: :thumbs:
It might have already been said, but I can't keep up

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A .357 can also shoot .38 rounds as well. Beneficial if you're trying to tame the recoil (in most cases).